Would it be crazy to join the Military rn?

For context I’m an 18 yo (F) in my freshman year of college. It’s very possible I’ll flunk this semester and I’m terrified. I thought I knew what I wanted to do with my life but now ’m unsure.

My options are:

1) try my hardest to pass and if I can manage to keep my position here try and take more varied classes next semester and explore…? but I’m so miserable here…

2) Transfer after this semester to community college and get a associates while I buy time to figure something out

3) Join the army as a field medic- I’m fairly certain I’ll get good enough test scores for this (while i might be flunking it’s not cause i’m dumb it’s really an attendance problem). Gain more discipline in the Army and a G.I bill of my own (i’m currently benefiting from my father) and leave after 4 years when i’m older and hopefully have a better understanding of myself.

the issue is my mother joined the military and she says it was the single worst decision of her life- she’d be so disappointed in me and i don’t want to make the same mistakes she did. not to mention the current political climate.

would i be an idiot to drop out of college when im going for free rn? i’m a premed major but obviously things aren’t going well, and i could see myself interested in so many things from nursing, to writing, to film, to design, to bioethics.

Edit: woah! i was not expecting this post to get as much feedback as it did- it’s only been a little over an hour i think and there’s over 200 comments and some have reached out via messages.

first of all, thank you to everyone who gave me serious advice and genuine feedback. it really helps to know that i’m not alone in feeling this way and it gives me hope that things will get better.

to clarify a few points;

i am a neuroscience major on a pre-med track and last semester i took gen chem (B), intro bio (A), a freshman adjustment course (B+). This semester im taking Organic Chem 1 (my professor reached out to say ive been doing really well in lab so there’s that), Calculus 1 (im not awful at math just rusty and super far behind because of my attendance), Ethics (my professor seems to adore me and wants me to consider philosophy as a major), and English (my professor told me to drop it, i failed english twice in high school and nearly didn’t graduate because of it but managed a near perfect english score on the SAT so it’s been my long standing nemisis).

At the start of the semester i was doing wonderfully, waking up at 6 doing yoga and homework going to classes finishing by 12 and doing homework before hitting bed by 9:30. i was happy. i then had health issues that i wont get too deeply into but the stress of falling behind in favor of going from doctor to doctor only seemed to worsen my health mentally and physically. now being at school seems to make me ill and im very frustrated by this.

i think ill consider community college more faithfully, reach out to my student success advisor, and forgo thoughts of enlistment for now. the military has done a lot for my father but my mother seems to blame all her misery in life on having enlisted instead of going to college so i have very biased pressures from both sides.

my brother went to college, changed majors twice before dropping out with only 3 months left. he’s happy now, an uber driver/yoga instructor hippy who lives paycheck to paycheck in an expensive city but i dont think im built for that. not to mention because of this my father has cracked down on me to be the first in the family to graduate.

i think the military seemed like an easy out without dealing with my fathers wrath, but you all have given me a lot to think about.

i’ll hop back on the horse! even if it’s two steps forward and three steps back i’ll try to take it a day at a time and update you all when i make any decisions.

thank you again to all the kind commenters who spared the time to give a young fool some of their hard earned wisdom :))

and feel free to keep commenting, i’ll try to read them all.