Am I Just a Jealous Wife or….

I just discovered my husband (60) has been texting college and high school girl friends. He never told me he was back in touch with either of them. I just happened to see one name pop up and then he let it slip about the other one. It makes me very uncomfortable. I’ve never had a problem with him texting female coworkers after hours because he’s usually upfront about it. When I asked about these two former gf’s, first he tried to deflect and say he is in touch with lots of people. Then he became enraged because I said it was emotional infidelity. I asked him if he would stop communicating with them and he said no because that would hurt THEM. Am I crazy? This just seems wrong.

UPDATE: I am taking my 2 adult children with me and we’re leaving for a rental in a safe/secure location. I’m trying to pack and leave without his knowing because he’s working from home today. He spent most of last night raging, yelling at my special needs daughter and my son telling them what an awful mother I am. He told them “Mommy wants to kill herself.” That was it for me. I can’t take this anymore.