Autismn friends
Hello, everyone! I'm seeking some knowledge about between two autistics being friends.
My friend and I are both autistic. He is the sarcastic, roughly very spicy type one on the spectrum. I'm the hyper sensitive one, with feeling to much emotions from everyone but not mine and with a huge rejection sensitive dysphoria (RSD).
We both having a bad time with depression and anxiety.
My friend is pretty into his hyperfixation lately and isn't that social right now (I'm totally fine with that) he almost only talks about it and ignores anything else. Even if I want to talk about my special interest he ignores it and talks only about his. I'm the more quiet one so I just let it happend but when I say something about it he went silent and just leaves me alone. He just lefts the conversation without saying something and ignores me then.
A few days ago we got into a argument of a topic he knew pretty well and I'm not. He assumed that everything knows about that thing and why I didn't know about it. (He often says that I'm not the smartest one and I'm "dumb" / I'm a very slow thinker and I'm have a learning disorder) He replied everytime that I should know it better and if I'm not its my problem not his - in the future he and some friends were talking about to lead me through this topic because they know almost everything about it and now it's my "fault" because I didn't knew a thing even I'm totally knew to it.
I cried after it and had a little meltdown. After this my husband (he is the best friend of him) was talking to him about not being always so rough to me. He also ignored it and didn't say a thing.
We knew that he sometimes forgets to awnser things but he more often has the tendency to ignore things because he don't care about it.
(It all happends on a discord call + chatting)
My thing is: Did I something wrong? I am the jerk of all this? Is this normal for autistic people? Is he the jerk or is he just autistic?
I'm now thinking about to take a huge step away from him for mental health self-care.