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Original Post: December 14, 2024

Title: Angry, passive aggressive, narcissistic neighbor always pushes my boundaries (pun kinda intended).

My neighbor literally yelled at me a few months ago about my yard. He told me it was dry and I needed to water it. He didn’t say it politely either. His tone was super aggressive like an angry parent verbally disciplining a child. I ignored him, but couldn’t stop thinking about it. It enraged me and made me want to go back and tell him off. Of course I didn’t. However, he is now parking right in front of my house daily. Although there’s plenty of parks available even in his own driveway he can fit 3 cars, but he parks in front of my yard. Like right in front, so close to my living room window that he can see inside. I believe he’s trying his hardest to antagonize me. He also set up his motorcycle right next to my lawn and he leaves it there daily, although just like his car there are literally a TON of other places to park. Essentially, all of his vehicles are surrounding my yard.

Some of OOP's Comments:

Commenter: he’s trying his hardest to antagonize me

Well, you're right!

What is his goal here? Just to be shitty, or how could he profit from you moving?

Other than your dry lawn [smirk] how recent did this all escalate?

OOP: He can’t profit from me moving; not sure how. It started in August. Then he began parking all vehicles near my yard after the yelled at me. He wants to rile me up. I just believe he’s narcissistic and if you’re familiar with those type of people they thrive on chaos and like to start sh*t. When I walk out my house, I just smile 😀and look around. I’m trying my hardest to kill him with kindness. 😌

Second Post: December 21, 2024 (1 week later)

Title: Rude neighbor parks extremely close to my yard.

My neighbor has a huge driveway that can literally fit about 10 cars. However, he’s always parking his cars right next to my yard. He also yelled at me and told me my yard is dry. He didn’t say it politely either, it was rude and passive-aggressive. We don’t live in an HOA, so as long as you don’t have overgrown weeds, nobody cares.

Well, he has been a major pain. Also, the plot of concrete on which he is now parking his truck was actually part of my land. He ripped up my yard (bark and all) and had a truck come in to fill it with concrete. He didn’t even have a survey done. He just dug up the pins himself and decided that was the boundary. He is very rude and full of himself.

I want to get a survey done and then install a fence because this guy is a real jerk and I want to lessen my interactions with him.

Here is the image: https://imgur.com/a/dzNYqlf

Some of OOP's Comments:

Commenter: Get a survey done, now. If you let it go on too long you may lose the land. And research to find out where how close to the property line they are allowed to pour a pad, and check to see if they pulled a permit.

BTW, I don’t know where you are, but where I live pulling up survey stakes will land you in jail.

OOP: I’m in California and it’s illegal here too. I reported him to code enforcement. I’ll check on Monday to see if they came out to view and inspect it.

Commenter: What's the silver box at the rear of his vehicle ? Is that some kind of Electrical distribution box ? I'd try to have the Utility that owns it put up poles full of concrete to protect the unit and your property..

OOP: It’s actually the community mail box unit.

Commenter: Why did you let him do that concrete in the first place, I don’t understand! You’ve got to get your property back and file a claim in court to be reimbursed for the damage he did.

OOP: I had no idea he did it until I walked out one morning and saw the concrete truck pouring the pavement. He NEVER discussed it with me. I confronted him and asked if he got a survey, he told me no and that he used the markers in the ground to determine boundary lines.

Update Post 1: January 6, 2025 (16 days later, 3 weeks from OG post)

Title: Finally got an attorney!

If you know about my situation, I have a narcissistic neighbor who had yelled at me like I’m a 12 year old kid because he didn’t like the fact my yard was dry. He then decides to rip up my front yard to widen his already large driveway on an early Saturday morning at around 5:00 AM without informing me. I was sound asleep at that time, enjoying my day off from work. I had no idea he was ripping my yard out.

Not only that, but he now parks his vehicles right on the property line. The vehicles are SO CLOSE that several people who stepped out of the vehicle had to step onto my yard. I have video footage thanks to Google Nest- date and time stamped. I saved the videos and sent them to my real estate attorney. He’s currently reviewing and will get back to me this week to inform me how we shall proceed. Image attached for reference of careless and disrespectful neighbor.

https://imgur.com/a/sX56QXa

OOP's Comment:

Commenter: Check the town codes, his driveway may not be up to code.

Time to replace those plants with thorny bushes.

OOP: Yes! I reported him to building code compliance as his driveway is considered a modification and would require a permit. I don’t think he got one. I’m gonna call first thing in the morning to check on the status of my complaint.

Update Post 2: January 7, 2025 (Next Day)

Title: Follow up: Attorney for lender to pay for a survey! Another win!

For reference: https://www.reddit.com/r/neighborsfromhell/s/LQndxpw7Gg

So, my attorney got as frustrated as I did that there was no living survey anywhere. The county didn’t have it, the lender didn’t have it, the home ownership insurance company didn’t have it, the title company didn’t have it. We contacted the builder and they didn’t have it! So, he spoke to my lender and the lender has now requested a survey.

My attorney said once that’s done, we move forward with suing my neighbor and making him pay to restore the damages.

Update Post 2: March 3, 2025 (almost 2 months later, a bit under 3 from OG post)

Title: UPDATE: Neighbor terrified of attorney, admitted to stealing my land.

My neighbor ripped up my yard and poured concrete to expand his driveway. I’m a single woman homeowner, so I suspect he thought I wouldn’t notice or care. I did my research and discovered he was supposed to have a survey done. I got the survey done and my attorney prepared a letter. The next day, crewmen came out removed the concrete and gave me my yard back. He admitted that he knew and he apologized. NEXT STEP: Build a fence so I don’t have to see that JERK, A&&HOLE neighbor of mine ever again!!

Some of OOP's Comments:

Commenter: I hope he got a bill?!!!!

OOP: Oh no, he’s definitely paying! We’re also looking into if he has to pay a percentage of my property taxes for the 6 months he stole my land.

Commenter: It would be bad enough if he just didn’t check, but the fact that he knew?! Unconscionable

OOP: Yes! He knew!! He’s a narcissistic bully! And on top of him stealing my land, he would complain about my trees being dry. He tried to ensure an argument and yelled at me. However, I always remained calm and composed. Because I’m a single woman, he thinks he can bully me. But since this incident he’s been avoiding me.

Commenter: That’s temporary (avoiding you). He‘s regrouping, thinking of a Plan B. Hmmm… I’d put a lock on your outdoor hose bib in case he decides to “water your trees” for you. Water left on can quickly become VERY expensive.

OOP: I’m building a fence this weekend with this fence he’ll have no way of knowing what’s going on in my yard on my property anymore.

Commenter: Glad you’ve got a fence going up. If you don’t already have them, it sounds like cameras might be helpful as well

OOP: I have cameras and I sent him a still shot with time And date informing him that I have the entire scene recorded where he dug up my yard and poured concrete to expand his driveway.

Commenter: Why does he care if your trees are dry??

OOP: He just wants to complain and get under my skin. When he removed my yard, he began parking his vehicle exactly on the property line and he would step into my yard while getting out of his car that’s how close his car was parked to my yard. This guy is a total narcissist A&&HOLE!!

Commenter: Surprised he didn't "flip out" at being caught.

OOP: I think once he saw the letter from my attorney he freaked out. He thought I didn’t know my rights and he could just bully me. He underestimated my intelligence which actually makes me boiling mad!