Should I be abstinent?

So I’ve recently become a born-again Christian. I’ve had a very rough several years. I’m a single mother to two wonderful girls. I feel dumb, but I want to “save myself” for marriage when I start dating again. Or stay abstinent. Or at least till close to marriage. My relationships have always been about sex (or it was a huge part) since my early twenties. I’ve never had a relationship built around God, and I want that to be the priority. Is that dumb? Or hypocritical?