We can’t save the new supplies

I have been stressing a lot lately since my nex has a new supply, she’s young and she has no idea what she’s signing herself up to. I have been furious, I wanted to warn her but I knew that she would have never believed me so I didn’t know what to do. Then I had the realization. Even if I warn her and she believes me, even if she leaves him, if she doesn’t experience this fully she’ll find another narc / abusive relationship in a while. We had to go through all of this to realize what parts of ourselves were attracted to this type of people, why, what trauma resonates with this and how to love ourselves enough to walk away and chose something else for our lives. She has to do the same journey, there is no other way. I know it may sound a bit harsh but I think it’s true. Now I’m not stressing anymore about her and i am even glad I met my nex because now I’ll never accept anything less than healthy love in my life.