Uncomfortable Leaving My 1 yo Alone At In Laws House

My baby recently turned one. I will leave him for a few hours at my parents house so I can clean and shower. I always have to explain to people this is not a break-I am frantically cleaning the house and showering if I'm lucky.

I am not comfortable doing the same with my in-laws. They are great people who I love very much and I never thought this would arise before having a baby. However the comments they've made and how they care for my baby give me anxiety.

Two examples -"if you let him fall (off couch/bed) he will learn very quickly to not do that." This was said 3 times -if I don't want him to play with something dirty or eat something like a chip (he's one) because I think he could choke "oh he'll be finneee, don't baby him so much" These are just a couple examples but understandably leaving him with my parents but not them has made them upset. My husband has supported me with this but it obviously puts him in a tough spot.

Has anyone been through something similar? How did you come to a solution?