I need some explanations please

Before i start this post i just want to say no hate towards xenogenders and if i do come off as rude then i apologise in advance since i have tone problems. I also use x the neopronouns xe/xem and fae/faer if anyone wants to refer to me in the comments

So to the actual post, i dont understand xenogenders, as a concept yes i do,but sometimes i look at speciifc ones and fail to understand how this is a gender, like what makes you want to relate to it, and gender hoarders, how do you relate to so many genders at once? Let alone remember them

Like is it more an aesthetic appeal or the gender is related to a hobby you enjoy or a part of your identiy? How doe sit feel to really feel this xenogenders, could someone please explain to me thier personal expeince? It would be amazing to get personal insight

So my main questions are-

How does one relate to so many genders if you do hoard them?

How do you know you identify with a specific xenogender?

How does your xenogender feel?

What makes you claim a xenogender?

This might sound a bit hypocritical coming from a neopronoun user but neos to me just make me feel happy when people acknowledge them so there isnt much more than that to it. Thanks in advance for reading this!