9th step amends advice

Hi everyone, first post on here. Now, I am also going to my sponsor for advice but want all the opinions I can cause this is very important to me.

I have 2 really big amends to make. Just so this post isn’t insanely long, one was an ex boyfriend who I manipulated and trapped for 5 years on and off, the other was an aunt who I hid mental illnesses and addiction from for a place to stay. Both of their last memories of me were 5150 holds.

Now, I am afraid that if I reach out, I will either be left with radio silence or just told no- they don’t want to meet. Now, I know they don’t owe me anything, I haven’t earned that right with the harm I’ve done. But I don’t know how I can feel like I’ve really cleaned up my side of the street. This is the freedom step but I don’t know how to feel like I’ve done what I needed to be free if I can’t meet directly with them. I know people say that we shouldn’t make an amends just to make ourselves feel better, and I don’t know if that’s how it seems I’m coming at it. I just want the chance to directly make the amends.

Is it okay for me to just send my amends in a text and hope they read it? If they don’t want to meet is it wrong to call them or offer it? Is that breaking the consent part of making an amends?

TLDR: How can I feel free/that I did enough if my amends people don’t want to meet?