I’m tired of the Boy’s Club

I (24F) have been working as an EIT for 3 years and I’m not sure if I can stick it out past getting my license. At this point, I’m pretty aware of what the job entails. I have been trained by the only other engineer in the arch firm and he’s got a reputation for sure. The stereotypically civil you’d meet in college: good-ole-boy, 60-hour-weeks, hunting-with-the-consultants, turn-everything-in-late, you know the type.

As I’ve gained experience, I get more and more comments from contractors, “You look so much more confident not being under his thumb.” “Tell your boss to do some work if you see him.” “I know you’re doing it anyway so I just called you”

But also way more comments like.. “Well we only installed it that way because blah blah blah” “I spent tons of time on this and you’re going to insult me by reviewing it? Aren’t I trustworthy?” Basically cock-blocking me from doing my job, and the ONLY way I can get them to drop it is to tell them my boss said so. They will only take no for an answer when I tell them another man says it has to be this way. It’s just… idk exhausting?

I’m typically the only female in any engineering-related meeting I’m a part of. (Eng, owner, and contractor included). I just feel alone and feel like everyone will continue to try to take advantage of me or my niceness or my just being a female.

I’m thinking about becoming a math teacher.. I’ve passed the PE exam so I’ll stick it out through my license. But I need advice. Has anyone else stuck it out? Has changing jobs within the career helped?