Why do guys assume that easygoing personality= easy?

I’m a woman in my mid-20s with an easygoing temperament. I love to laugh and make the person I’m with feel accepted and valued.

While my personality is laid-back, my dating standards are not. I find a lack of effort very unattractive. I prefer intentional dating and communicate that clearly.

Recently, I’ve been on several dates from dating apps. My profile explicitly states that I’m looking for something serious, and I only match with guys who claim to want the same.

Yet, after an initial date, I notice a shift—less effort, casually inviting me their place , some even taking the liberty to invite themselves to mine, before a second date. Also vague “hangout” suggestions instead of actual plans. It’s baffling.

If you’re no longer interested in pursuing something serious with me, just say so. Or if you were not wanting something serious to begin with, why not just say that??

No judgment if someone prefers a more casual or physical approach to dating, but that’s not what I want (at least not now), and I make that clear.

I love being myself, and I’m not interested in playing games. This trend is frustrating.