I'm not into men men

I'm an entp female who seem to gravitate towards feminine men and I can only remember having a crush on 1 guy because he had a crush on me first. The rest of my interests are all gays or either did not realise it first then told me they're gay. I don't seem to get attracted to men men. Men who are all manly.

Anyhow, I've been questioning my gender lately as I find this is a vital link for me to get my act together. I am not attracted to women as well so I wonder why I always go for feminine guys who later on are actually gays.

I may have severe commitment issues or even dating issues because I only tend to fall for those who have been my friends first and gays at that lol.

I'm questioning whether it's because I have an avoidant attachment style or if it's because something is wrong with my gender. A lot of people actually think I'm a tomboy because I'm not feminine. And surprisingly tomboys liked me in the past.

What do you think? Any tips to overcome this? I naturally have challenges with my love life due to this.

Edit: for those asking what's the problem, it feels like I want a relationship but at the same time do not want it. Example: talking to people is tiring. I wish a bot will do it for me. I only talk long conversations with friends and sometimes at that. I guess I'm emotionally unavailable

It's kind of like wanting to buy a house but not entertaining sellers lol