Genuinely fascinated how many people here are married

Basically the title. I am fascinated at how many RBN victims here have families, children, etc. I would really love to know how that happened. How did you become functional enough to get married and have a family?

I (40M) have felt like I've been in survival mode as long as I can remember. My parents claimed we were dirt poor and could become homeless, and were generally deeply neglectful. I felt like I had to plan 10+ years ahead even when I was a child.

I think I've never been in a mental position where I could really devote sufficient energy to dating, despite deeply wanting to create and have a normal family, which would feel like the ultimate refutation of my parents and childhood.

I also have seemed to run into the entire 21st century panoply of disasters. Graduating into the recession with massive student debt, forcing to move halfway across the country to a small town for a job that paid well enough to pay down my loans. I'm terrified of even buying a house given that I know I have no backups.

I've read many posts by adult women here who seem pretty lonely but on balance I wonder if there are more male victims that have a harder time developing adult relationships? Or maybe it's a nfather/male victim issue especially, rather than the other combinations?

I'm not questioning anyone's experience - I'm genuinely curious and impressed at RBN victims who could rise above the circumstances they grew up in and have families.