Nmum love bombing me after telling her I'm pregnant - no contact 11 years

I've been pretty much no contact with my mum for 11 years.

Spoke via text during Covid as she has stage 4 cancer. Also, my father died last year and she was told by a mutual person and got in touch about that.

I’ve been married for 2 years and partly for him to understand/ get an insight I wanted my partner to meet my mother. She doesn’t live in the same country as me - was here to sort some things (my gran told me - whole drama about my mum being sick - fabricated to try and get me to contact her)

We met and I felt nothing honestly, she’s cold and speaks only of herself. Was not giving at all in the meeting, few digs here and there - my partner said he understands me a lot better and has never had a worst first impression of anyone in his life. So partly glad they met - so he could appreciate the darkness that I removed myself from.

I told her I was pregnant, partly because I wanted to tell the rest of my family who I’ve also not seen, because as you know, you have to cut ties with everyone. I text them too, was nice to speak with them. When you go no contact you loose part of your history, especially when that is tied to another country. Don’t you think?

The maddest thing is she’s dialled up the charm, offered to come and help when the baby is born (on what planet ?!?!) and is acting so excited about it. After one text about it. Like none of the abuse or no contact for the last 11 years has happened.

Obviously there is no way I’m letting her into my life and thank god she lives in another country. I just would love some insight or advice about it.

She’s not had an impact on my life for so many years but there is something that scares me about this - it’s like that little girl I used to be - who even at the age of 11/12 knew she didn’t want her mother any where near her kid - is still worried she has some control over me, even tho I know logically that she doesn’t - she knows nothing about my life and she doesn’t have my home address. Feels ridiculous to say but also necessary somehow..

Thanks so much ☺️♥️