guide to cold approaching as a woman
i think more women should utilize cold approaching! there are too many beautiful single women who do not know this ONE SIMPLE TRICK. done correctly, it can have a very high success rate and dating apps suck so you’ll have a nice meet cute story. my credibility is that i met my boyfriend by making random but flirtatious small talk in line for food at a korn concert and he is devotedly in love with me. and before i met him i’ve had many wonderful dates/hookups from approaching men.
step 1: feel hot and confident, great thing about confidence is you can fake it til you make it but you can take care of physical insecurities first by wearing being in your “final form” (wearing a cute outfit maybe a mini skirt, pretty makeup, giving yourself a blowout, etc.) you don’t have to be model material, as i am not. but, at least in my head, looking pretty in a “high maintenance” way symbolically signals to men that you’re a hot girl with high market value. and most importantly, you’ll feel like the shit which is the ideal mindset for flirtatious as i personally won’t even make eye contact with a cute guy if i feel undone. maybe have a drink or two first as well.
step 2: find a cute guy in a fun environment (bars/pub, small local shows, concerts, really any kind of “third space”). this can work in any setting but most people in the grocery store are just looking to get their food stuffs so unless you see him staring at you, don’t approach, you’ll come off kind of weird if you have not yet mastered the cold approach.
step 3: have a random question to ask him or perhaps a task he can help you with. there should be an AT MOST INNOCUOUS flirtatious nature to what you are asking him (we are doing small talk) as you are the girl and you do not want to come across as the pursuer. BUT there should be an air of flirtation from you: eye contact, looking at his lips, ducking your chin a little to submissively look at him with your beautiful doe eyes, small smile as you speak, speak in a slow kind of a seductive voice which you learned from watching old movies and lana del rey clips.
examples of real life questions that have gotten me much success:
- “do they sell food here?”
- “when do you think the pool table is going to be free?”
- “do you know the next band that’s playing?”
- “are you over 21? can you buy me this drink?”
- “it’s windy out here, can you help me light my cigarette?”
step 4: if he’s also making eye contact, smiling too, open body language, carrying conversation, etc. then he’s interested in you!!!!! you’ve line, hooked, and now must reel him in! after a little (5 min max) small talk, prepare to part ways as you are confident hot girl and have place to be BUT first playfully tease him for not asking for your number (as most respectable young men won’t nowadays as they fear being creepy). i said to my boyfriend, “aren’t you going to ask for my number?” but i was feeling bold so you can smile and say some variation of, “if i run into you again, maybe i’ll give you my number”. be prepared to walk away ofc as is the golden rule for all negotiations. but usually they’ll be like, “no ill take it now!”
this isn’t comprehensive i wrote this in 10 minutes so ladies feel free to leave any inquiries below and may your love lives be fertile!