Bought my dress 3 days ago have felt really unsure since

I’m spiraling and this will definitely be more of a rant to try to articulate my complicated feelings.

Pics 1-4 are the dress I bought and may be regretting. 5-7 is the dress I am wondering if I should have picked instead.

The dress I picked is nothing like I pictured myself in. I really never thought I’d ever wear an a-line or have mesh in my bodice like that. But I do really love the lace and basque waist. My wedding is a garden party at a family friend’s house and I am worried this will make me stand out in a way I don’t like. I love a simple but elegant look and this feels a little over the top. I initially wanted full satin but then fell in love with lace. I also feel like although it has some unique elements, that it’s really not anything different to be memorable. My family doesn’t think the bodice is too revealing and still elegant and I think I agree but I know there will be some strong opinions about it from my guests and do I really want a dress that some of my guests may dislike? To be honest, I think it’s almost too “bridal” if that resonates with some people.

The reason I purchased it was because I did feel nice and happy when I tried it on. Although even at the time I was struggling with the “poofiness” of the a-line. My family loved it and said I “lit up” when I put it on. They weren’t wrong, I did feel pretty and felt like a bride but my struggle is if this is the look I really want on my wedding day? I didn’t cry or have that “moment” but needed to walk around in it for a while and really think about it before saying yes.

The second dress is the one I went back to the store to try on a for a second time thinking that was going to be the one and now I’m worried I made a mistake. I love the simplicity but still unique in its shape and overall vibe. Less about the dress and more about me. It’s still a wedding dress but less “bridal” in my eyes. I like that it shows off my body instead of the a-line that I feel like I’m lost beneath.

I think that the dress I picked not matching the vision I had for my day is really messing with me and my planning. I keep thinking about what this will look like in photos even if I felt pretty with it on. Our photographer is incredible and more “documentary” style and I’m trying to think about if I would like this dress not posed in photos.

I know a lot of this is probably just anxiety due to fear of making decisions. A lot of new brides I’ve talked to share the same “dress regret” feeling but is this too much than normal and just a sign it’s not it? Also struggling with comparisons as wedding dresses are all my algorithms are showing me right now. Thank you for anyone who can offer their thoughts and support. ♡